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One eye, Two-eyes, Three-eyes
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| October 9, 2006 | by Chingbee Muñoz-Abad |
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(please take time to read the story first…and then share it)
When I was a little girl, when there was nothing to do in my grandparents house in Boroc, Ormoc City , I will go through each Book of Knowledge’s literary feature to read the stories. There were only twenty volumes in a set, so I only had twenty stories to go over and over. Speaking of Boroc---I wish I had the chance to research where the word come from---it is somewhat a stinky name, but the spitefulness of the place’s name is the opposite of its grandeurs. The place was a paradise on Earth. There were only a few of our batch mates who had the opportunity to see the place. Gingging “Maila” Lasam Martin and Lilibeth Gotardo are some of the few. I could not recall anymore who else had the chance to see my “paradise”. The house alone was more than thousand square meters big and two-story at that. My house now is only the size of one bedroom in that palatial house. My family has, let me say, this habit of keeping houses sparkling clean. Everything is required to sparkle. Just imagine how many helps were needed. The house was of western motif as my grandparents were influenced so much by what we call---imported. We were even served food in a five star hotel fashion with so many pairs of spoons and forks at the plate side. The garden---oh the garden---paradise is not enough a word to describe. We had fruit trees all around. Flowers, African daisies, bougainvillias, orchids…(no roses because my Lolamommy found it hard to maintain them), the grass mowed perfectly, they were there as if angels of God arranged them here on earth. We had our own play-house, it was Marisol’s (Consuelo, because that was their place, my own playhouse was n Leyte-Leyte, another paradise, which I will speak of soon). The play house is a little house with complete amenities. It remained closed during classes and refurnished on summers. There was a big swing in the middle of the HUGE garden, this is where I used to while away with a book in my hands… The story One-eye, Two-eye, Three-eyes would fascinate me because of the thought of our looks if indeed we had only one eye or the additional eye in the forehead to make it three. Having only one-eye will make us a Cyclops. How fun it would be if we were Cyclops but what will happen to the Cyclops in Odysseus’ journeys---it will have no part in the epic or maybe it will have two eyes… and the sheep with golden fleece will be useless (again, I seem to wander, the memory is overwhelming…)Having three eyes on the other hand, will allow us to see opposite directions at one time because I have this notion that the third eye will not go where the two-eyes will …as I think of it now, my childhood was full of thoughts, so much thoughts in fact…
Now that I am a grown up, it is time I share these stories to my children and my student children. Upon reading this fairy tale again, at this age, my interpretation of the story is much more mature.
In the story, the mother only loved the two daughters who were different because they were different. Very much like us now. We want the “different”, or rather, we want to be different all the time. Oh, yes. This is a fine thing definitely. In Tagalog---ibahin mo ako…, in our common expressions, one is ---others ka man gud, “But that’s’ not the way I see it”---clashes always come about because people see things in different views. Each one of us has his or her personality that is why we see things differently. We are not robots. We are humans with brains and hearts. The “different” here is more in our physical convictions. We judge so much through the looks and to what a person has. And sadly, also we judge through how we view the inner of a person without giving the chance for him or her to justify.
The eldest daughter only had one eye. I cannot help myself to ask why God had to make our eyes two and not just one. Elementary actually. One is not enough. Our sight will be short then. We will only see what is in front of us. We will not have the ability to forecast the future. In the story, One-eye failed to do her task. She fell asleep right away which made two-eyes very glad and the mean mother disappointed. With only one eye, I believe, our hearts and brain will not of much use. This will make us uncreative. We will only rely on what is in front of us and will fail to feel what is behind. Unfortunately there are people who, even if they have two eyes, have shut off the other making him or her think in a very diminutive way. Hanggang doon na lang ang isip niya.
The Youngest daughter had three eyes. If humans are expected to see and foresee, then why didn’t God make our eyes three? If we had three, we will see everything. That’s it! If we had three eyes, we will see more than what we actually see which is very dangerous. Three-eyes was not supposed to see the goat’s magic. But because of her third eye which could not be controlled like the two eyes, the goat was butchered. If we will take sides with three-eyes, then it was an advantage that she had three eyes or else, they will never discern the secret. Two-eyes will have a happy life then. But if we will take Two-eyes side, Two-eyes didn’t do anything wrong and it was unfair for her family to butcher the goat which fulfilled her hunger and nothing more. We should realize that as humans, we are given the gift to see but not short of what is required nor is what is more than what is required. Unfortunately again, there are so many of us who has a third eye. Not the third eye used for clairvoyance and the spiritual likes, but the third eye that sees too much even if it is not seeing anything. We could not take Three-eyes’ side because she has evil thoughts for Two-eyes. These evil thoughts are made up by our invisible third eye hoping that they are true or will become true. As we hope and hope, to see what’s not there, we break a little and a little and a little, until we end up breaking not just ourselves but also those around us who do not deserve to be.
It was not Two-eyes end when the goat was butchered, evil thoughts and deeds will never conquer any good soul, fate knows this and God reins’ fate. As long as we remain in God, the reins will not break. Two-eyes cried over the dead goat and was hopeless. She should have thought of this…as I should have when I feel like my reins broke, that there is always hope.
No matter how we seemed to be unattached to God’s reins---we should always remember that God will never let go. If we decide to let go, He will still not.
Two-eyes had a new hope. A tree with silver leaves and golden fruits which she alone can pick from. A person with a clean heart, no matter how condemned, no matter how his or her name had been tarnished by others, as long as the heart remains pure…your mind clear, you will have the “golden tree” for your self.
When Two-eyes married the prince and left her miserable home, her evil family felt that even if they could not pick fruits from the tree, at least they have it in their yard and people will admire them for having such wonderful tree. Little did they know that evil people can never have of any use things that come from goodness. The tree moved to the palace with Two-eyes. A golden heart go with goodness, they don’t remain with the unpure.
The prince married Two-eyes, not because she was the normal one. This part of the story tells us that different or not, it doesn’t matter as long as one has a pure heart which is capable to love. And when we love, it must be pure. Free from shortness of seeing and free from oversight. Love that is enough our two eyes can hold.
To my friends…whose two eyes are in perfect vision to see the pureness in my heart, I thank you. To my children, whom I showered with love and whose love they give back, I will always need you.
To my husband Peter, whose heart only sees love…I will love you forever…
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| August 24 , 2006 | by Chingbee Muñoz-Abad |
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The UP approach for teaching beginning reading emphasizes on story books as springboard for each lesson. Thus, it is appropriate that my column will have one story book to serve as springboard for each concept to be discussed. My “students” for now though, are not the little ones but my friends who may be adults but surely young at heart. Since this is my opening column, I chose the book Twelve Gifts of Birth, by Charlene Costanzo - to be my primary springboard. This is so, because, this is the “birth” of this space especially allotted for me by the people very dear to me. Also, my mom who was very ill, recovered and I believed, was born to us again. The first part of the Twelve Gifts of Birth reminds us of the story of Sleeping Beauty. The time when royal children were given gifts on their christening. Eventually it is said that not only to princes and princesses, but to each and every child these twelve gifts belong and also to each and every adult, these gifts must remain. We are now in our mid-life and most of us have teen-age kids now. A few might have just given birth, others still trying to look for rightful partners to build a family with - no matter how old we or our children are now, or if one is childless, the author made it clear that this book, THE TWELVE GIFTS OF BIRTH is a “Message for children of all ages and the child in every adult.” –thus the book goes… “At the wondrous moment you were born, as you took your first breathe, a great celebration was held in the heavens. And twelve magnificent gifts were granted to you.” 1. The first gift – STRENGTH – May you remember to call upon it whenever you need it. Young as we were, when we were babies, we were not aware that strength was within us. The petty obstacles we met were very big for us already. My biggest obstacle then was when I was first enrolled in SPC, I was supposed to be in grade one because I had previous schooling in Lourdes College in Cagayan de Oro City. Ms Fe Roble was my teacher then. Marisol was in the prep level with all of you. One time after recess, Marisol was mistaken to be me and was pulled to fall in line with the grade1’s. There were the two of us then in Ms Roble’s class, scared to death. We sat down together but nobody noticed us. From then on, I went with Marisol to the prep level. I didn’t go back to the grade one class anymore. It is actually okay to get scared. At our age, some of us have already reached the ultimate goal we have in life. Some has yet to reach that and in doing so, strength is a weapon we can “carry” along. I can say I am lucky I didn’t need much strength to be what I am now even if I have been through trials and I have been an easy go lucky person. God never left my side. The only source of strength is God. Wherever we go, He comes along—remember that. 2. The Second gift -BEAUTY- May your deeds reflect its depth. Modesty aside, I am gifted with physical beauty but not until when I started pulling my hair. The case was tricotilomania (whatever the spelling is) or hair pulling syndrome. If I elaborate on this, it will take us forever—click on the search engine and you’ll get it. That experience almost destroyed my life but I look at it not with bitterness and anger. I see it as Gods way of making me humble. A way He preferred to guide me through. True enough, I was able to see myself through heartaches that could have led me to failure. People can only be ugly if we are ugly inside. Beauty is always within us. It doesn’t matter if we are now old or fat. As long as we have goodness in our hearts, we will always be beautiful. 3. The Third gift – COURAGE - May you speak and act with confidence and use courage to follow your own path I believe in fate. Do you? Each one of us has our own destiny. Not all in our batch are successful. May we not forget each one of us no matter how we are in life. Successful people must not expect to be placed high up on the pedestal with the lowly ones looking up high. Instead, let us put the lowly on a pedestal for them to look down and let them imitate the courage they need to move on. 4. The Fourth gift –COMPASSION - May you be gentle with yourself and others. May you forgive those who hurt you and yourself when you make mistakes. They say-in this “dog-eat-dog world,” one must be tough to survive. To make oneself tough is a tough job. You need to harden yourself or else, everyone will trample on you but doing so will turn your heart into stone. I am sure you are familiar with the story, the sword in the stone - the cartoon version teaches about how life must be. Only the one with a true and brave heart can release the sword from the stone, that simple. But was it simple to look for a man who possess’ such trait? Only but one deserved the sword. The strength of the stone towards the sword gave way to the gentleness, bravery and mediocrity of a pure heart. We don’t need to be hard on ourselves. Things are easier when treated with compassion. 5. The fifth gift – HOPE - Through each passage and season, may you trust the goodness is life. I have a friend whose husband left them for another woman. Her husband is my husband’s officemate so we always go together with their other officemates as a group. We were five families altogether. On summers we will all go to Ilocos or Batangas or to other destinations. The children, 15 of them will have so much fun. Until this husband after a high school reunion went with a former classmate to the states. He left his wife and three children. The eldest, 20 years old has Lupus and is now being dialyzed everyday. He needs a kidney transplant. The wife lost hope. She did not want to come with us anymore since she will be “husbandless” if she will. She refuses to hear mass even if their house is just across a church. She found a job and had three boyfriends in less than a year. She spent all the money her husband left for a nose bridge and eye bag removal. The husband, a nurse has just passed all the nursing board in the US a month or two ago and is now married to the former classmate who is also a nurse. In this case, you will wonder whom to side on to. The husband who lost hope of the marriage to be intact? Or the wife who lost hope after the break up? 6. The Sixth gift –JOY - May it keep your heart open and filled with light. On the day you cease to laugh, God forbids, prepare to die. Without joy, life will be lifeless. Without joy, you are as good as the living dead. Joy is not always success or the richness you have. One can be poor and be filled with joy. Be happy with what you have. Be contented. Find happiness in simple things, like flowers. Flowers can bring color to life. Or laugh like a child. A child doesn’t have so much, yet they can laugh with very simple things. 7. The Seventh gift -TALENT- may you discover your own special abilities and contribute them toward a better world. When I was a little girl, I always wished that I can dance the ballet like Astrid Penserga did in our ballet class, or play the piano like Gina, Atet, Annette or could orate and declaim like Jocelyn Tiu or sing like who ever it was that could sing like Lea Salonga then. I grew up thinking, I had no talent at all. When I got married, I could not cook, sew or do the simple task of buying fresh fish. I thought I was useless. Well, who would think that I can be very good with plants? I can identify them, plant them and they grow, oh so well. Then I am now a teacher to little kids and oh, how they love me so much. How about you? What’s your talent? 8. The Eighth gift -IMAGINATION- May it nourish your visions and dreams. “Walang bayad ang mangarap” - feel free to do it. Children’s imagination are so vivid, one could almost see and touch an imagined thing. Dreams are our guide. We dream what we want to be and what we want to have. But if act like Don Quiote de la Mancha, we might end up in an asylum. So better be careful in imagining things. 9. The ninth gift -REVERENCE- May you appreciate the wonder that you are and the miracle of all creation. Have you thanked God for creating you? When was the last time you stopped and appreciate a full-grown tree or a bird singing or the warmth of the sun or the twinkle of the stars or the breeze from the sea or the murmur of a flowing river? Why don’t you step out now and do so. 10. The tenth gift -WISDOM- Guiding your way, wisdom will lead you through knowledge to understanding. May you hear its soft voice. I always pray to God this way : “Lord, take away the anger in my heart, the bitterness, hatred and enviousness. Just put in love, joy, contentment, humbleness and wisdom. Lord, give me wisdom like my husband’s, amen.” Peter, my husband, always knows what to say and do no matter how harsh the situation is. He prays a lot, maybe that is why God has given him the gift of wisdom more than anyone else. He can remain calm in nerve-wracking situations. He has never said a word that will go out of bounds. He has never made decisions that will make him regret afterwards. That is why my motto-from the story, The Nail Soup - “What my husband says, is always right.” 11. The eleventh gift -LOVE- It will grow each time you give it away. Give love, unconditional love to every one and Love will just grow and grow and grow… 12. The twelfth gift -FAITH- May you believe Yes, may you believe and nothing more… |
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| July 31 , 2006 | by Chingbee Muñoz-Abad |
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